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  2. Skype Call with IPs

    Timing sounds perfect! Congrats! Hope everything goes smoothly for you
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  4. Contract has been notarized, now waiting on med calendar and meds!:clock:

  5. Skype Call with IPs

    Congrats on being officially matched! I remember the nervous emotions hoping they liked me when they were going through the same thing. I'm hoping for a smooth process for you and can't wait to see how your journey unfolds!
  6. Skype Call with IPs

    We had our call last night! They were seriously the most adorable couple from China. We had a lovely conversation that turned emotional and I am getting more and more excited to be able to help complete their family! They only want one child (I was hoping for twins to be able to experience it but oh well!) At the end when they asked if I would like to work with them and if I liked them I almost cried. It's funny because the whole time I was hoping they liked ME and to see how nervous they were when they asked me, made me realize the nerves were on BOTH sides and they were probably scared of me not wanting to match with them, just as I was. I can't imagine starting this journey with a more loving, nice couple. They said they want to start ASAP because they have 3 high quality frozen embryos in Beverly Hills, so after enrolling me in an Obama care plan (I only have 3 days left!), we will get this party started. Can't believe it's beginning finally--wish me lucky for a smooth process! XOXO
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  8. @itsonlyk - How are you doing? Restful healing vibes coming your way! I can't wait to hear about the final chapter of this journey
  9. Anyone have problems at work?

    My guess, without knowing how competitive you local market is, would be that even if you get passed over for a promotion while pregnant, it would be hard for any one person to ruin your overall trajectory. If you're a good, hard worker with a strong ability to network with colleagues, it should all work out fine. Best wishes!
  10. Advice wanted please

    My kids were 5 and 3 when I did my first journey. It wasn't too hard to explain to them that the baby wasn't ours (we also bought the kids book that explains surrogacy using kangaroos). We had to occasionally correct their teachers so they didn't get confused, but it was all really smooth otherwise.
  11. Anyone have problems at work?

    Wow! I'll start with--that candy job sounds awesome. I completely fail every time I try to make caramel corn. I can get the caramel all right, but I can never get it to evenly coat the popcorn. It just ends up being popcorn with some caramel blobs on it. Anyways, thanks for sharing your perspective It's so annoying when people are awful like that just because something makes them uncomfortable. I'm really crossing my fingers that I don't turn out to be working for one of those "bad eggs." My workplace itself is incredibly inclusive and supportive, so I just have to worry about the possibility that a direct supervisor might be offended by surrogacy and make my life suck for a while. Here's hoping I'm just being super paranoid!
  12. I was matched today !

    Alice57 thank you so much, I am trying to exercise patience for sure because I know there’s so many possible road blocks. I’m pretty much trying to not get my hopes up, stop checking my email a million times etc waiting for calls from my agency lol. I have my skype call Monday and really hope they like me. I’ve become so incredibly passionate about surrogacy after nonstop research that I hope to find an agency to actually work for as an intake specialist or coordinator. My coordinator said it’s about who you know, and being very involved in the surrogacy groups and community. I graduate school in June and hope to continue to educate myself because I have never been so sure about a career path. Thanks for being here for me ladies, I’m sure I’ll have a million more questions through this journey I’ll update my post Monday after our skype call
  13. Anyone have problems at work?

    What was "funny" was that NOBODY KNEW it was a surrogate pg....or even that I was pg around the time she posted this....UNTIL she put this out and tried to get the members that *she* felt would be bothered by me, to sign it. At least 90+% of the members were offended that the owner wrote this letter and was forbidding me from talking about it, so one gal came up w/a "code". She (and others) would ask me how the "remodeling" was going, when potentially questionable members were in the club. We knew who most of them were, but I found out just a couple of years ago, that the owner offered to waive several months of dues for spying on me....and several did this!
  14. Anyone have problems at work?

    This was the letter she wrote as an apology to the club members about my "offensiveness". (and plug the business)
  15. Anyone have problems at work?

    ....YOU'RE BACK!!!!! So good to see you again!! I had wondered what you were up to. I've never worked in a "professional" setting (I'm not counting working as a surro-coordinator, as I knew that wouldn't be an issue) during any of mine, however, I've had it put my job at risk. Initially my 1st employer (well, employer during 1st surrogacy) was supportive and I was open from the very beginning, before ever even getting to transfer. Once I was open that it was for a same-sex couple, everything changed. She started threatening me that if I cost us members, she would fire me. That I was NOT *allowed* to discuss or mention anything about the pg at all, and that if the members asked me point blank, I was not allowed to respond. I had worked for her for almost 4yrs before this surro-pg, so she knew I was a hard worker and dedicated to the club. It was the most difficult and challenging time there and there were some of her 'friends' that would spy on me, make comments about how I had bills to pay so needed to sell a baby, etc. What I learned from them was to not be as open as what I naturally am. I started keeping things to myself, giving vague answers when asked questions, not referring to gender EVER when asked about the IP's. (my 2nd IP's were IM/IF, so I figured she would finally be ok w/it, but by that point, she was just pissed at me, as well as her own DD was struggling w/infertility) Since that experience, I haven't shared until I was confirmed pg and only if it made a noticeable impact (severe nausea/MS), which was really only w/the job after I left the above horrible one. I told that boss because it was a small family owned business and most of my job was making caramel corn, fudges, truffles, meltaways, etc, and depending on where in the process I was for whatever I was making, someone would have to step in because it was all about the timing of the product. (when the cooker buzzed for the caramel corn, you have to get it IMMEDIATELY or you just burned everything, have to toss it and start all over...way too costly) The fact that you've been through this before gives you more insight of what to expect, which can be helpful in explaining, if you need to. Assuring them that you will do your best to keep the impact to your job at a minimum and they see the hard worker that I know you are, I would hope that would be a positive. And if they try to give you crap.....I'm up for a road trip!!
  16. I was matched today !

    The other 2 gave you a pretty darn good idea of what to expect, so not much I could really add to it. Surrogacy is all about the "hurry up and wait". Sometimes it's for typical things such as matching, screening, contracts, AF to show to start cycling, etc, and other times it's the bumps in the road. The ER takes longer, body doesn't respond to meds, fluid in the uterus or a polyp, chemical pg's or BO's and you have to wait for your beta to drop to get AF to start cycling again....sometimes something unexpected comes up w/either the surro or IP's such as family emergencies, work issues, vacations (traveling to a Zika area delays the transfer by 6mos), etc. When I 1st started out (Nov. 2006), I thought it was like an inside joke or something....and then I learned 1st hand!! LOL! If you expect there to be some "hurry up and wait" and there isn't any, you can consider it a pleasant surprise! I look forward to following your journey!!
  17. Advice wanted please

    Kids that age don't really understand yet the traditional way of conceiving a baby, so it just makes sense when you tell them the doctor put someone else's baby in there. Best wishes!
  18. Advice wanted please

    In the US, it is a requirement to have and be raising your own children, in order to be a surrogate. (it's not a requirement in the UK) You will find that children are much more accepting and resilient than adults are when it comes to surrogacy. Explaining what surrogacy is, why some people need to turn to surrogacy to build their family, that it is NOT *you* baby but that baby belongs to the family you are helping, on their age level, you'll find that they accept it and move on. When I 1st started, my youngest was 1 1/2yrs old, so of course she couldn't understand anything, but she knew mommy was taking care of M&O's baby for them, though to what level she "got it", I don't know. She has grown up w/surrogacy, so to her, that's how everyone got their babies. She would tell people that you had to go to Canada and a special Dr put the baby in. My oldest was 10yrs old when we 1st started (w/2 other kids in between these 2) and was able to understand what I wrote above. He was even our birth photographer for my 1st 3 surrogate deliveries. He knew that some people couldn't have their own children w/out the help of others, and he felt it was important (as did I) that if you can do something to help someone, that if it's in your power (mentally, physically, etc) and you felt called to do it, then you should. He said it was a "no brainer" for our family to be involved in surrogacy. Granted over the last 10yrs he's had a lot of fun w/it and at my expense (gotta love a teenager that yells in the halls in school that his mother is knocked up by other guys and his dad doesn't mind...), he's also helped explain it and use it to educate others. There are several books that can also help....Sophie's Broken Crayon, The Kangaroo Pouch...that explain surrogacy.
  19. beachalice update

    I saw the MFM today and was able to FaceTime with the IM while she was out of state for a family emergency. 12 weeks tomorrow. Baby measuring on target. SCH is still there. The MFM said to not worry about the numbers because it doesn't change the outcome. The SCH appears coagulated. No blood blow in the area. Continue pelvic rest and no exercise or straining of any form or anything that raises heart rate. I forgot to ask about baths... but I can't really fit in my kids' bathtub anyway so I'll skip baths for now. OB next week; follow up with MFM in 6 weeks.
  20. Anyone have problems at work?

    Thanks for the advice! I definitely think I'm going to move forward with a second surrogacy :). How did you inform people at work? Did you have a private meeting with your supervisors or wait until it became obvious and someone brought it up? I realize that it's probably the same basic concept as any pregnancy, but I honestly don't remember how I've done it before and this is the first time I've been in such a professional environment.
  21. I was matched today !

    Beachalice—such an informative reply. Thank you soooo much !
  22. Advice wanted please

    Hi everyone! For a basic background I am considering being a surrogate for my friends who are in a (male) same sex marriage! They will both be fantastic parents and I have no concerns In their support towards me, if we were to go ahead with this. I am looking for experienced surrogates who have children of their own and their experiences in how their own children dealt with it. I have a very supportive husband and my children are 6,5 and 3.
  23. I was matched today !

    and Hopefully you have some more info from your agency as well by now. But like ad57 said, there's a physical exam by the IPs' fertility clinic (you'll have to travel to whichever clinic they are using) as well as a psychological exam. Sometimes the clinic can review your previous medical records for a pre-qualification before you travel for the exam. After you're cleared mentally and physically is the legal process. All this together can take a month or 6+ months.... just depends on the schedule of the clinic and the IPs' desired timeline. After all medical and legal clearance is complete, you move on to the medical process. You'll probably go in for a baseline scan on during the first few days of your period - blank slate so to speak so they know what they're dealing with. Then either that cycle or the next cycle you'll start your meds. You'll have 1-3 ultrasounds during that time to monitor your response to the meds. Meds can take anywhere from 3-7 weeks before transfer. After embryo transfer, you'll have a few blood draws to verify pregnancy and increase in hormones, then 1-3 ultrasounds to check on growth if the embryo sticks. You'll be on meds until 10-12 weeks pregnant, then released to standard care with your OB. The protocol for meds and times and frequencies for everything fertility related varies widely among clinics. I'm always interested to hear people's journeys because it really seems that no two are alike! I hope your Skye calls goes/went well
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  25. beachalice update

    Thanks for checking in I live about 90 minutes from IPs, and we picked a provider and hospital in the middle. I'll be moving to the area in January. Ultrasound tomorrow to check on the SCH. It's been 4 weeks since last scan. I feel much different, so fingers crossed. I really really REALLY want to get back to my exercise routines and normal daily life if possible.
  26. Induction! Advice?

    Congrats!! You totally should have posted this in the birth stories section, i completely missed it but so happy you're on your second journey! I am just barely wrapping up contracts for our next one!
  27. More in my small town?

    That's so amazing beachalice! I live in a town with close to 1 million people and when I first started surrogacy and would talk about it with people and doctors, it was like talking about bigfoot, like they have never met a surrogate, even the hospital I delivered at, all the nurses and doctors I saw have never met a surrogate or delivered a surrogate baby, I thought for sure I would find a few here! I am very happy though that you have found experienced physicians to go through this journey with!
  28. 14th weeks update

    That's so amazing to hear! Movement is great and will definitely help your GC relax a little bit. It's always a little stressful early on since you cannot feel movement and you cant help but think if everything is okay! Keep us updated, almost halfway there :)!
  29. beachalice update

    I'm late to the party, as usual! I'm so happy to hear your updates, it sounds like everything is going well! I wish for our journey that the IPs or at least the IM and I were able to go meet with the staff, we tried several times but it never worked out, but in the end it all worked out perfectly and the staff was amazing and supportive. Do your IPs live close by? SO amazing that it seems like they're able to go to almost all the appointments! How are things going now? Hows the SCH?
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