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  1. Birth Plan - Delivery

    Thank you all so much, so many good ideas. I compiled a list and sent to my IM at week 30. Hopefully we can decide on an "estimated plan" so I know what her wishes are for her baby. Neither she nor I have any strong objections or religious beliefs that would pose a problem, but birth is such a sacred, special event and end to this journey, I want it to be special for her and baby and meaningful. There is a lot to consider!
  2. Same issue here. My due date is 12/27 and my carrier is canceling all policies in my state as of Dec 31st. IP has to carry my insurance 6 weeks postpartum though. I am waiting to hear what options we have.
  3. Hi everyone Hope you are all doing good! I wanted to ask what everyone's "plans" were in the third trimester to prep for delivery? Did you have a birth plan in writing? Did your agency help? I know everyone's situation is wildly different. I reached out to my agency, but no reply yet. My IP has been so meticulous, I figured this part would be stress free & we would both know expectations and be on the same page, but nope I am almost 34 weeks and a tad worried since we don't have any logistics or a plan in place yet. Baby is measuring very big and so am I! LOL
  4. 26 Weeks!

    Thanks everyone! beachalice, I have the same questions for her that you mentioned..now that baby is viable (sigh of relief) pre-term labor can happen and I just want to be sure we are all prepared. With my own children I had a fully stocked pantry and nursery ready to roll by this point, LOL. Just my overly prepared personality I guess haha. I know everyone is different. The agency has been great and they are moving ahead with IP, the attorney and the birth orders. They don't really need much from me based on my state of residency. I'm going to make some suggestions that Traci mentioned, recording her voice etc. I did pick up a doppler with her permission and have been sending her videos of the heartbeat and showing her the kicks. I think it's been hard since she planned to be at more appts but couldn't due to her work schedule and this crazy weather/airport issues. I'm sure everything will work out fine, my emotions are stable thankfully, even during this hormone crazed pregnancy, I feel very grounded and sure of my part. Just keep focusing on the positive!
  5. 26 Weeks!

    HI ladies, I've been mia for a while, almost 26 weeks now. Pregnancy is going so smooth, I just can't belive it. Very thankful for that! Gender reveal was not 100%, leaning toward girl, may know for sure at the last US. I'm in awe and so happy to be pregnant lol..for the final time. I'd love to help one more family, but with my change in career, I can't I'm thankful to be apart of at least one journey. I have a question I hope some of you might have experience with. Have any of your IP's been so superstitious during the pregnancy? Mine is worried to the point my IM won't buy anything for baby and doesn't want to speak about the birth yet. I know it's somewhat soon, but I have started to worry a bit. The agency wants to start the birth order process. I'm sure after all the failed IVF she's been through and using surrogates before me, she is very emotional. I can only imagine..she's voiced worry over bonding with baby despite not carrying the pregnancy herself. I'm trying to offer as much reassurance as I can. We've been a good team and hope the next several weeks are good, and baby continues to thrive and grow without issue.
  6. Thanks beachalice and traci72...when I go next week, I will mention "checking the ED box" just to be sure.
  7. Hello just wanted to circle back and give an update. Maybe this will help another IM or surrogate. Our results from the Panorama test were completely inconclusive with a disclaimer stating their test and lab does not offer testing for Gestational Surrogates or donor eggs. They said it detected a DNA mismatch. I wish our high risk OB would've known this, it would have saved my IM hundreds of dollars. The OB now recommends the "Harmony" test, which I've read online is also not applicable to a GS or Donor Eggs. The office did not do the first trimester blood work either, HCG and PAPP-A, which I thought was part of the blood work the day of the Nuchal Scan, but evidently not. I am scheduled for the Harmony test next week when I'll be 14 weeks. This part is tough. IM and I both fear amnio, so hopefully we won't have to consider that route. I guess we'll see what happens. I understand these are just screening tests, but I don't want to undergo more unnecessary blood work or have my IM have to pay for these if they aren't giving us any data to go on. I am confident that everything is ok, but I know my IM is very scared. Did I mention how awesome it is to be pregnant again! LOL. I'm loving it, so happy I can help someone like this, I get so emotional every time I think of what I'm doing for her...it's just awesome :D
  8. Everything went fine. It was a bit nerve wracking since the hospital is under construction so my test was right in the Labor and Delivery unit, a bit of commotion and a lot of families. The NT measured 1.3 which is good. FHR was 165. They call it the "Ultrascreen" because they also drew blood for the cell free fetal DNA test and the high risk OB/geneticist will write up a report and give us an "estimate" they also look at the nasal bones, anatomy as best they can, arms, legs, etc. And they did a 3D at the end. Should have those results in 10 days. It was so cute to see the little peanut jumping all around..I've never had a US at 12 weeks with my own pregnancies before, so that was special. The neat thing about the cell free DNA test is we will know the gender. The hospital here is not used to surrogates, every one was amazed and had tons of questions.
  9. Hey guys, haven't posted in a while. I am scheduled for an "Ultrascreen" this Wednesday at the high risk OB due to my AMA (age 36), I will be exactly 12 weeks. IM was 37 when eggs were frozen, so doc wants to be sure if any genetic anomalies. Between the RE and OB, I've had 4 ultrasounds so far, nice strong heartbeat each time. Now this screening is looming and IP's and I are nervous! Anyone else have this screening? I am still in shock we made it this far, thankful for each day and looking forward to eating a full meal again and not having morning sickness!
  10. @GC3, I am wondering the same! Do you have any updates? I apologize if you posted, I didn’t see anything. I go for second US tomorrow to confirm heartbeat & will be considered 6w2d pregnant. If Heartbeat is detected and all looks good tomorrow, the RE clinic will release me tomorrow and stop my meds at 8 weeks gestation which is May 20th. Eeeeeek! A little nervous I was expecting it to be 10 weeks as we discussed and I've heard others talk about.
  11. Second FET

    Our second Beta from Friday was 460, 11DP5DT, ultrasound scheduled for this Friday to see if there is a sac and to confirm pregnancy! Woohoo, I'm thankful we got this far but still analyzing everything :D I was worried about my Progesterone level being only 8.9, but I'm using Crinone and it doesn't give accurate blook levels. Our last failed transfer it was initially 12 then rose to 15. If all goes well, I have to go back one week later to check for heartbeat
  12. itsonlyk

    That is so exciting!!
  13. Second FET

    My mistake, I am 9 days past transfer not 8
  14. Second FET

    First Beta, 8DP5DT is 189!!!!! Second Beta is Friday
  15. Second FET

    Well, I splurged on the Clearblue Digital this morning, which is 7DP5DT. To my dismay, both tests in the box were duds! The window never changed, it stayed blank. I ran back to Walgreens and bought the cheapest test there, $7. It is BFP! For now at least. Line isn't a squinter but it's there and showed up immediately. We only transferred one embie so I'm not expecting multiples. Keyword: expecting. Beta is Wednesday at 8am....one day, nineteen hours and 26 minutes, but who's counting? Now trying to decide how to get my $15 back from the Clearblue LOL. I may send an email and let them know. Maybe the whole lot was bad, it didn't expire until 2019. This time around, I am really crampy, sore BB's and nauseated. I don't know if that's from the meds or what. We shall see Wednesday! Hoping for a miracle here with my very last transfer!