Delivery was very easy, no complications! Strange being in the hospital room alone after though. I didn't ask my family to come out of privacy for my IP. I'd recommend future surrogates have someone come to the hospital as "your" support. Help get you snacks or food, talk to you, just guide you through especially if you have much pain.
My mom instincts kicked in and I felt restless lol..no baby to tend to, but I did get to sleep. Just stayed overnight.
I would definitely suggest to any surrogates in the contract phase out there, to ensure a birth plan is in writing. Insist on it.
I didn't get to hold the baby as I hoped I would. Or even see her for that matter. IM didn't want me near her, which was a sudden change of events. I respect her choice, and thankful to be part of bringing this little girl into the world! I think being able to see or hold the little one helps with closure. Because surrogacy is so rare in my area, the medical staff, OB, hospital social worker, etc, were all worried about my emotions and kept asking me questions about my mental health over and over...somewhat awkward, but I knew from day one, I was choosing to be a gest. surrogate for the right reasons. I guess I was just surprised how distant and cold my IM become after delivery, but everyone handles their emotions different. Definitely emotional to see the journey come to a close. I am so thankful everything went so well, many months preparing and double checking, wondering..All of the nurses were so awesome. Although my journey is over, my heart aches for all the families out there struggling with infertility, I hope more women are encouraged to become surrogates. What a life changing experience!
**Just choose your agency and IP(s) wisely and trust your instincts. Do A LOT of research. Plan everything that you possibly can but be flexible. Communicate. Express your goals too, as the surrogate. Be actively engaged.