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  1. I'm glad you're feeling more positive. Definitely take your time and make sure the decision is right for you. Are you in Scotland? I'm only familiar with surrogacy in United States.
  2. That's great!! Keep us updated
  3. That's a bummer!! I have seen on various boards that Harmony is better for surrogates. Were the embryos PGS? I think the Harmony is the same trisomy screening as preimplantation genetic screening. Regardless of the testing, I am so glad to hear you're enjoying the experience. With a great NT scan, it sounds like baby is low risk
  4. How very scary for you and your friend. You are not the first potential surrogate to wonder whether her IPs were making the right decision. I can only say that any of us can die in a freak accident any day. We have no idea when our children may need to be raised by a single parent for any number of reasons. I think, personally, it is not up to me to decide whether my IPs will be worthy parents (unless it was obvious they were having children only for the purpose of selling them to the circus or something). Not everyone feels this way, and obviously you need to feel comfortable with your own decision. Some points that stick out to me -in no particular order: you don't YET know how long she has; she may have decades you don't know YET how much treatment may be required what if your friend could live comfortably long enough to see her child be brought into the world? what if your friend's husband only want a piece of his wife to cherish after she's gone and their baby is the only key to his peace? is their family supportive of them using a surrogate? what would you and your husband say if the husband was trying to adopt a baby as a single dad and asked if you'd serve as a character reference? have you done any of the medical or psychological testing required to be a surrogate? do you meet all the legal requirements in your country to be a surrogate? In the end, no one can make this decision for you. You're the one (and your family) who has to live with the outcome of your choice. Best wishes
  5. How did it go??
  6. Whether you use an agency or go through this journey independent is up to how strong you are feeling about tracking down the legal requirements in your state and working with lawyers and escrow companies and your medical team to jump through all the legal hoops to ensure you are named on your child's birth certificate rather than needing to adopt your own child. There's no wrong answer. Many parents enjoy the DIY route and the closeness it brings with their surrogate in that they negotiate the whole way together with their surrogate. Many parents enjoy leaving the legwork to a professional team and the closeness it brings with their surrogate in that they talk only about positive milestones and don't have to talk business directly. Best wishes!
  7. I love that you want to help other families. Like Traci said though, IPs spend near $100,000 per surrogacy journey. Since you have no idea how your body handles pregnancy (many healthy women have unexplained infertility or recurrent miscarriages or incompetent cervix with no known cause), it would not be fair for parents to risk their everything for you to try to carry for them - even if it was not a legal requirement for you to already have children. There are many ways to make a positive difference for families, and I'm confident you'll find some meaningful way to help someone in need.
  8. I am with a new agency and have received the profile of a potential family. We're just waiting to get to know each other to confirm whether we are a match. If everything goes smoothly, I'm guessing blindly that we'll work on clearance in July, contracts in August, and get a calendar for September-October transfer. Kiddos and I are taking a road trip later this month. 16 states in 8 days! It'll mesh well with our homeschool study of history (settlers and pioneers) as well as geography. They have to journal what they see each day so writing is covered. We'll calculate miles and budgets for math. And I can tie in some science too as the land scenery changes from east coast to west coast
  9. How is everyone doing? Where are you in your surrogacy life? Is anything going on in the rest of the world?
  10. Congrats, NJLyn! Maybe google nuchal scan just to know what to expect. And definitely let us know how it goes!
  11. I'm excited for you! I'll echo @@Sunrise that it's just a gut feeling. I was suggested a match at first that simply wasn't right for me. I couldn't say why. I couldn't explain it. They simply left me with that "do I have to??" feeling. My next match was the family for me. I loved everything about them and we talked like old friends our first time on the phone. It's a little like dating - or more like interviewing a full time nanny for your baby. If you think you'll have to get a nanny-cam just in case, then ask to be rematched. If you get that giddy feeling like you just got asked to the prom, go with it. Let us know how it goes!!
  12. Hello! What a positive update I hope your agency can help with peace of mind and being mentally prepared for the steps involved.
  13. How pretty! Thanks, admin Are we getting the shoutbox back? I thought I saw another technical question, but found the answer.
  14. Okay. So if a surrogate is covered by employer insurance and has an exclusion, is it best to NOT SIGN UP for the year with exclusion policy but rather be covered ONLY by marketplace plan - which is then paid for by the surrogate or IPs according to terms of contract? Are universal or reimbursement policies on the marketplace?