Regarding psychologist, I think it is most important that you have a screening to be able to demonstrate that your surrogate is of sound mind and capable of understanding legal contracts. It’s helpful if the psychologist is familiar with reproductive issues and can discuss some of the challenges of taking months of medications for someone else’s baby. The attorneys absolutely need to be well versed in reproductive law, but to my knowledge it is not a requirement that the psychologist specialize in reproductive issues.
Regarding clinic location, you can choose any clinic you like. Travel expenses for screening, creating embryos, and transfer of embryo might add up to the point that a local clinic makes more sense. But there is no legal reason to choose one clinic over another. The local state laws where a clinic is located would only be relevant if your baby was born in that state.
Regarding donor share programs, just make sure you understand the costs and the risks. Are you guaranteed a certain number of eggs? Are you guaranteed that any of the eggs are able to be fertilized? It may take a little bit longer to get started if you need to wait for a second couple to choose your egg donor. You may not end up with additional embryos to be able to freeze for the opportunity to try again in the future (for a sibling or if the first transfer doesn’t take).
Each clinic will have different policies so be sure to advocate for yourself and ask lots of questions.
You can do this!