beachalice

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  1. beachalice update

    Hello! Transfer was 10/4 with a single embryo. HPTs started showing positive at 3dpt. Positive beta at 9dpt, 12 dpt, 15dpt. Now the ultrasound is scheduled for two weeks from now. (Another 2ww ) I'll be 7 weeks at that point so it should be a good one!
  2. beachalice update

    We had an interview today with a new OB group in Atlanta. I wasn't examined at all - just a chat session to see if they'd be a good fit. D it!!!! This practice is experienced with surrogacy so it will be no problem to handle records and parent access, etc. The IPs are welcome at all appointments, or I may video/ record the appointment for them if they have to miss it. The practice has 6 midwives and 4 OB. I'll see all the midwives in rotation, and one will be present at birth; they don't share with any other practices. I'll see the OBs or be referred for NST or BPP only if baby needs a little extra support. Total midwifery model of care all the way. No need for induction unless I'm past 42 weeks or if a BPP indicates a change in health. No elective induction even if the IPs beg for one. Unmedicated delivery is supported in a number of ways. The practice was just so warm and positive and friendly. We spoke with 5 staff members from check in to check out, and they were all so excited for my IM. No gushing over me at all, which I appreciate. They did refer me to a MFM so we can follow up on the SCH. They only do the 20-week anatomy scan in office, and sometimes a confirmation scan if women are unsure of dates. Their machine isn't strong enough to properly monitor the SCH. So I'll receive parallel care (usually same day appointments) between the MFM and the midwives until the SCH is cleared.
  3. Good for you. Whatever works for you is all that matters. I can relate a tiny bit in a small way. I'm a divorced mama in a small rural town in the bible belt. It's quite scandalous. But I don't care about anyone's judgement. Their opinions don't change who I am. When people ask about my non-existent husband, I say I'm single by choice. I don't need to be pitied nor have I earned a scarlet letter. It's my choice to raise my children alone. However, I don't have to deal with ignorance in the workplace on a daily basis so only you know how best to handle that environment. I will be announcing my surrogacy pregnancy in a positive way that lets others know I am excited for my IPs (while minimizing the rumors down about me because I need to maintain my job).
  4. Help Insurance and NewBorn

    Okay. Here's what I see: $526 premium every month $0 for office visits 20% of the hospital bill up to a max of $6000 if the hospital participates in this plan What I don't see listed is the coverage for c-section. It might cost $0 as a part of prenatal care coverage, or it might cost 20% of the surgery bill as a part of hospital services. Regardless of the surgery c-section coverage, the most you'll have to pay is $6000 total for delivery (in addition to the monthly premium). Check your contract to see how long you need to maintain insurance after the pregnancy. Usually IPs are responsible for medical care after the baby is born for several months. When your contract is complete, you can stop paying the $526 monthly premium.
  5. what are big no for GC?

    That's a hard NO! I'm so glad you can give her some pointers of how it can be with the right agency/ match.
  6. what are big no for GC?

    Nope. Def not true. She needs a new agency. It might take a little while to find the perfect match. But there's someone for everyone. Some surrogates are particular to married couples or singles or religious or non-political or traditional or first timers or international or ..... And that includes some surrogates who prefer to carry for families who already have children. Some surrogates really don't have a preference of ideal family at all. There's someone for everyone. Just a matter of finding them.
  7. Gorgeous child! Congrats, momma! What a warm fuzzy update
  8. Help Insurance and NewBorn

    Jul, Most Americans don't even understand our insurance. I promise. If this is the correct document for your GC's insurance, https://www.blueshieldca.com/bsca/bsc/public/broker/PortalComponents/StreamDocumentServlet?fileName=Gold_80_HMO_1-18_SOB.pdf it looks to me that you'll pay: $526 every month for premium (this is membership into the club whether you use it or not) $0 for doctor appointments (plan on 10-14 visits for prenatal care) $600 per day the GC is in the hospital (plan on maybe 3-4 days if all goes well) $35 for doctor appointments to check on your GC after the c-section (plan on 2-3 visits) This is just my interpretation of the insurance document linked above. It might not be the correct document, and I might have misunderstood the coverage. I hope your agency can help more!
  9. I would say it's entirely up to you and the rapport you have with your colleagues. My IPs are not single, but they do plan on utilizing FMLA time when baby comes so they are preparing for telling their employers. Their close family and friends know their story so it was joyful for them to announce to their close circle. They figure everyone else can find out along the way or not know - not really anyone's business is their point of view. Shout it from the mountaintops and keep ultrasound photos on your desk, or keep it reserved for only those who need to know. It's up to you. Everyone's personality and comfort zone are different. Best wishes!!
  10. Help Insurance and NewBorn

    If the agency suggests this policy, I hope that means it has been checked for surrogacy exclusions. The premium is due in full every month no matter how much care your GC receives. The deductible is the amount you will need to pay in addition to the premium before any coverage begins. $0 deductible is nice! The other two numbers you want to ask about are co-pay and co-insurance. A co-pay is a visit fee that is due either one time or at every visit for prenatal care. Co-insurance is the amount of the bill you are responsible for after the deductible and co-pay. For example: hospital delivery fee of $20,000 for c-section with 20% co-insurance and $100 co-pay: $0 deductible $100 co-pay for surgeon 20% co-insurance = $4000 bill for you The most you would be billed for the worst possible disaster would be $6,000 for your out of pocket Regarding newborn insurance, New Life and Art Risk are the only two companies I know about. You could also negotiate a cash discount with the hospital. Or it might be a possibility to call local insurance agents to see if there are any private companies able to offer a policy in your GC's region. You might also check with your insurance companies to see if they cover infants born abroad - I have heard this is a possibility. Traci has been in some training sessions regarding recent insurance changes in the USA. She may have some more up to date options for you.
  11. beachalice update

    I’m on my phone so I hope this doesn’t post huge. IM made a collage of 2 u/s photos showing how the SCH is changing in appearance. You can see the yolk sac and tadpole-baby in the 6 week image, but Baby was cropped out of the 8 week image.
  12. beachalice update

    Ultrasound from Friday got bumped to this AM. We saw a dancing little gummy bear with a good heart rate. I swear Baby was doing jumping jacks and toe touches. The little one is still measuring 2 days ahead. The SCH is the same size but the composition looks more clotty. The SCH is more beside baby than above and has room to bleed out if need be. RE said she's not concerned anymore. 2 more weeks of meds, and I'm released to OB care. IM and I picked a new OB near a hospital that is in network (for the moment ). We have an interview appointment scheduled for Wednesday to discuss their protocols and see if they're a good fit for us. The practice rotates through all practitioners including 5 CNM midwives.
  13. New IPs with surrogate in North California

    I would check with actual clinics on costs. Kaiser's numbers may be inflated to the max they're willing to cover, or they're trying to inflate the costs so that if the cover anything it makes you feel like you're getting a good deal. I sure hope they're wrong!
  14. hospital not in network

    Hmmm. Insurance is getting tricky. Does your OB bill the postpartum checkup separately or is a part of global fee for prenatal and delivery care? Hopefully you'll not have any complications so that a change in companies doesn't affect your care in any way.
  15. We're through with contracts and I'm nearly 8 weeks along. I just got a letter that my local hospital will no longer be in network for my insurance beginning in January. There's only one insurance company that's available in my county. So I'll be talking to my IPs. I'm guessing we need to make a decision before the PBO is issued so the contract can be updated? How does all this work legally?
  16. Birth Plan - Delivery

    Have you talked with your IP about goals for birth? I talked at matching and and the psych eval about my preferences for birth. We added a clause to our contract as well to address my preferences. Beyond your preferences (induce or not, pain management, etc), are you certain your IP will make it to the birth? When does your OB want you to come in? When should you contact your IP? Maybe you can ask about goals for prenatal care in case baby arrives before the IP? Are you going to pump for Baby? Do you know who all is allowed in the room? What about a photographer? Have you had a hospital tour yet to know how they will handle separate rooms for y'all?
  17. Exam and report

    One healthy sac is great news! I’m very hopeful for good news next time!
  18. New IPs with surrogate in North California

    I don’t have anything to add to Traci’s expert advice. Just wanted to say and wish you well. You’re so close!
  19. hospital not in network

    @traci72 - Do you have any experience with changing hospitals? My hospital and OB are named in the contract. I don't see any provisions for a reason we'd want to change. Does it sound like we'll have to amend the contract before we can get a PBO?
  20. Looking to become a surrogate

    I don't know why that one sentence in the middle is a bigger font. I think my phone has a mind of it's own.
  21. Looking to become a surrogate

    Hello The recommendation for surrogates is to be done with their own families because the hormones surrogates are required to take can cause future infertility, and every pregnancy runs the risk of complications that would prevent future pregnancy. So please make sure that you are very content with having only one child before you commit to carrying another family’s child. Second, are you in a committed relationship? Are you surrounded by people who can help with your baby while you spend days or even a week handling medical appointments for screening and embryo transfer? IVF pregnancies carry higher risks of complications, so that support network will be needed if you end up on bed rest as early as 5 weeks pregnant. Are you financially stable? Your finances will need to be documented for the contract to be legal because surrogates cannot be financially motivated. Surrogacy requires a lot of travel and a lot of time off from work for appointments. You’ll eventually be compensated for missed time, but it might be in the form of a set fee for embryo transfer more than a year after you first matched with a family. Regarding depression, you should be able to get medically and psychologically approved for surrogacy if you are stable off meds for a year or more. However, you may need to be able to document why you were on meds for a decade if the only cause for depression was a single event in middle school. I’m very sorry for your loss, and I don’t mean to make light of the situation. It may simply be that the agency saw the length of time that your condition required medication, and they are concerned that you haven’t been off long enough yet. Many surrogates are in our late 30s and early 40s, so there’s plenty of time to work on your family and any other requirements needed to get clearance for surrogacy. The passion grows stronger over time until all the circumstances are right. Have you checked in with your mental health provider and your OB to see if they’d recommend you for surrogacy? Maybe if you had written recommendations from all your doctors recommending you as a good candidate you might get through the screening smoother with an agency and fertility clinic. Lots of things to consider Best wishes!
  22. beachalice update

    Thank you! I've eaten so much spinach these past few days that I'm thankful the leaves outside are starting to change. I don't want to see any more green! I'm sooooo sleepy. I slept 12 hours Friday night to Saturday and 12 hours again Saturday to Sunday. I got about 10 hours of sleep last night and I'm barely functional today (Monday). No nausea though! Fingers crossed my stomach stays strong. Patient Coordinator called today and next ultrasound is scheduled for Friday. She didn't mention the SCH or anything so I guess I'll find out more at the appointment.
  23. hospital not in network

    (too late to edit my above post) I'll check in with my agency and all. I'd love a head's up of what might be needed before I talk to my agency rep. All her other surros just lost insurance all together so she's in a bit of a tizzy.
  24. Gestational Carrier PSYCH Evaluation

    Yaaayyy! Great news! Thanks for the update
  25. beachalice update

    The coordinator nurse clarified that I still have the same restrictions as for transfer: no lifting more than 10lbs, no orgasm, no pelvic penetration, no baths, nothing that raises my heart rate or body temperature. I voluntarily gave up my home exercises for now. Still waiting for an updated plan. My guess is we'll schedule another u/s this week or next week since that would be the next step anyway and it's not like there's a remedy for SCH. I'm eating a ton of avocados and spinach and kale and citrus fruits - it's the only thing that I can do that just might make a difference in my body's healing process.