Beachalice and Sunrise, thanks for that perspective. I suspected it was more like a gut feeling, but it's good to think about it the way you've suggested...like getting asked on a prom date Can't wait to share that example with the hubs LOL. @@Sunrise if it's not too personal, would you mind sharing what you mean by the 'after time'? In our case, as part of the application we had to think through whether or not we'd want to remain in contact - is that what you mean or something else? (In our case, we're thinking that the ideal case would be that our surrogate's family becomes like our extended family).
We're still in the process of waiting for her records to be transferred to my clinic and then waiting for medical clearance so it'll be a while before we have our first skype introduction but I'm being positive that it'll work out. I'm super glad this option is available to us but it seems like such a BIG ask...will you carry my baby. But I can't tell you how appreciative we are that there are women (and their families really) willing to give so much.
D&J congrats on having your transfer scheduled... I can't imagine how exciting that must be. We're still so early that I think we probably won't have our transfer until some time in the fall (trying to be realistic). Right now, we're just watching the calendar go by and practicing being patient.