I've found your post so far really informative and helpful and the link that was passed along above, is fabulous.
Yes, it's knowing where to start. We have three of our own little ones who we just cherish so much. Unfortunately after our last one was born, I had lots of complications and can't carry children anymore. I would actually love to be a surrogate myself and help other families because I think it's just such a sacred and special thing to do. Unfortunately I'm not in the position to do that either and we are currently trying to work out if Adoption or what we call Fostering (In Australia) or surrogacy is the best way for us to expand our family.
And yes hon, you are so right. Your best laid plans are sometimes left at the door aren't they. Pregnancy and bringing little ones into the world can sometimes be a complex business even if it is the most natural thing on the face of the earth.
Much love to you and thanks for the warm welcome :D