Like many on here, we are overwhelmed by the amount of surrogacy agencies out there, and associated costs and complexities.
We are in the NYC area. We are the lucky parents of a 5yr and 3yr old. I am 40, my wife is 39. We really wanted a third child and got pregnant during the summer of 2017. My wife had a very complicated pregnancy, which sadly ended in us losing our son at 23 weeks, and my wife lost her uterus. While we are still grieving, we are considering surrogacy or adoption to grow our family to 3 children before it's too late. Like most we are concerned about the costs, uncertainty, risks, emotional impact, timeline, etc. We are also concerned about our advanced age and a lower success rate. We might try to free embryos in the next few months. We would like to find out more.
We are open to agencies in other states in any part of the country, particularly if there are advantages worth traveling for. We are also open to skipping an agency and looking for gestational carrier independently. We also realize the surrogate mothers are giving the most precious gift to IPs, and would like to maximize whatever benefits and compensation we can pass on. I am concerned about using an agency that is only concerned about profit, and meanwhile the IPs and GCs needs are lost. In my opinion, the GC needs to cared for well.
From my understanding, it seems NY is a no go, NJ might be OK, CT should work, PA is a no go.
Can you recommend any specific agencies?
We have been referred to New England Fertility Institute, Surrogacy Source (Fertility Source Companies), Growing Generations, Conceivabilities, Circle Surrogacy. Any comments on any of these?
If going the independent route what is the best way to find GCs? How is https://www.findsurrogatemother.com/?
Any help is appreciated to get us going in the right direction.