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    Looking forward to journey #2!!!

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  1. What if: HIV+ Partner

    I imagine that the surrogate would be required to be abstinent. I can imagine any IPs being okay assuming the risk of transmission even with the low viral load and condom use.
  2. I think that you need to follow your gut. If you don't feel like it's a good idea to move forward, then pull the brakes. I read that you're really concerned about making her dream of motherhood a reality and reconciling that with the idea that she may not live long enough to raise this baby. And while it is true that any of us could die without warning, most of us do no have a diagnosis of incurable cancer. Long story short, it's not your responsibility to make sure that she has a child, even if she's your very good friend. If your conscience can't reconcile moving forward, then you have to do what you feel is right.
  3. Any woman who needs an antidepressant to regulate her moods during normal life is not suitable for surrogacy, in my opinion.
  4. I have never weaned that early, but that doesn't make it wrong. I think I remember one other surrogate who weaned early-ish. Maybe 8 or 9 weeks?
  5. Since all of these plans will basically cost you about the same overall, I would select the least expensive plan and put the money that you are saving on premiums into a savings account to apply toward the bills for the birth. Since you aren't familiar with US insurance, remember that the deductible and the out of Pocket max will reset every year on January 1st, so anything you've paid before that won't count toward the max for the new year.
  6. Matching Question

    So you were already matched with IPs, but continued to look for another set of IPs on the side?
  7. Spouse/Partner

    Not only did my agency focus on my partner, but so did the psychologist for the psych eval. I believe that most would deny a surrogate with a history of criminal conviction, and that would include the partner as well. So I guess the question is: since you've only been a couple for a few months, would you choose this relationship over surrogacy? Because I do think it will be an either/or decision for you.
  8. Turn Baby Turn!!!

    I was in your same boy on Tuesday, but thank goodness baby turned! I was not looking forward to an ECV. Now I'm just hoping baby stays out and counting down to delivery!!!
  9. You should ask for the fees that you are comfortable with, and make sure that your family is protected with regards to lost wages. If these IPs can't meet your needs, then they aren't the right IPs for you.
  10. Northwest Surrogacy Center has an office in SF and uses NoCal surrogates.
  11. I'm sorry, I got my agencies confused. Silver Linings is another to avoid, but Surro Connections seems to get pretty good feedback. But still, no FFNW.
  12. I would NOT recommend FFNW as your agency. If you are looking for a good agency in Oregon, you have several to choose from. Northwest Surrogacy Center, All Families Surrogacy and Silver Linings are just a few. FFNW has a pretty bad track record when I comes to doing things ethically and supporting their surrogates and IPs. Once they have their money, you're pretty much on your own.
  13. Moving out of state.

    Please don't move forward with surrogacy until your life circumstances are stable.
  14. Why are you even moving forward? You know that this is going to be a ride on the crazy train, but you keep waiting for someone else to get you off the hook. Just say no and move on.
  15. How many transfers?

    1st surrogacy: 1st transfer: DET; carried twins. 2nd surrogacy: 1st transfer: DET; currently pregnant with singleton