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This is my first journey as a surrogate. I am so incredibly excited and got matched today. I applied and finished my profile with my agency last week and got a letter from an amazing family today. We are planning our Skype call for hopefully this week. What was the process like for you after meeting your IPs? One thing I keep seeing on this site is that there is a lot of waiting involved which is fine with me. (I definitely didn't expect to get matched in a week)  What is the next step after meeting? I will be talking to my agency about all of my questions but just wanted to see how your experiences were. Has anyone met the IPs then they changed their minds? If the mother already has frozen eggs are they normally ready to start? Thanks everyone!

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adoubleux57    8

Congrats on being matched!! This is my 3rd journey and neither one has been exactly the same thus far!

For this journey i am currently on, after being matched and Skype meeting with the IPs, we scheduled my medical clearance with their clinic, then after getting cleared from that we are now in contracts, which is by far the longest process for all of my journeys, but rightfully so as it is the most important. With our agency, we are forbidden to have further conversations together without a representative from the agency present until after our contract is signed, which is a bummer as building a strong relationship is important to me.

Out of all 3 journeys, I have not changed my mind after meeting the IPs, every single couple has been so amazing and sweet, so that helped! Also, all 3 of my journeys had/have frozen embryos ready to go, so all have been super anxious to start as soon as contracts are signed.

I am glad you found this forum, the ladies here have loads of experience and knowledge and will be able to help give you insight through this process! Excited to follow your journey!

 

If you don't mind me asking, where are your IPs from? For me couple 1: China, Couple 2: Mexico, Couple 3: China

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Hi! Thank you so much. My family I prematched with is also from China ! Thank you for replying. After posting this I found a whole bunch of info on here that answered my questions. I’m overwhelmed (in a good way) of all the new info I’m learning and hearing everyone’s journeys. I can’t wait to move forward :) 

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beachalice    24

:hi: and :welcome: 

Hopefully you have some more info from your agency as well by now. But like ad57 said, there's a physical exam by the IPs' fertility clinic (you'll have to travel to whichever clinic they are using) as well as a psychological exam.  Sometimes the clinic can review your previous medical records for a pre-qualification before you travel for the exam. 

After you're cleared mentally and physically is the legal process. All this together can take a month or 6+ months.... just depends on the schedule of the clinic and the IPs' desired timeline. 

After all medical and legal clearance is complete, you move on to the medical process. You'll probably go in for a baseline scan on during the first few days of your period - blank slate so to speak so they know what they're dealing with.  Then either that cycle or the next cycle you'll start your meds.  You'll have 1-3 ultrasounds during that time to monitor your response to the meds. Meds can take anywhere from 3-7 weeks before transfer. After embryo transfer, you'll have a few blood draws to verify pregnancy and increase in hormones, then 1-3 ultrasounds to check on growth if the embryo sticks. You'll be on meds until 10-12 weeks pregnant, then released to standard care with your OB.

The protocol for meds and times and frequencies for everything fertility related varies widely among clinics.  I'm always interested to hear people's journeys because it really seems that no two are alike!

I hope your Skye calls goes/went well :wub: 

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traci72    202

:aas:

 

The other 2 gave you a pretty darn good idea of what to expect, so not much I could really add to it. Surrogacy is all about the "hurry up and wait". Sometimes it's for typical things such as matching, screening, contracts, AF to show to start cycling, etc, and other times it's the bumps in the road. The ER takes longer, body doesn't respond to meds, fluid in the uterus or a polyp, chemical pg's or BO's and you have to wait for your beta to drop to get AF to start cycling again....sometimes something unexpected comes up w/either the surro or IP's such as family emergencies, work issues, vacations (traveling to a Zika area delays the transfer by 6mos), etc. When I 1st started out (Nov. 2006), I thought it was like an inside joke or something....and then I learned 1st hand!! LOL! If you expect there to be some "hurry up and wait" and there isn't any, you can consider it a pleasant surprise!

 

I look forward to following your journey!!

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Alice57 thank you so much, I am trying to exercise patience for sure because I know there’s so many possible road blocks. I’m pretty much trying to not get my hopes up, stop checking my email a million times etc waiting for calls from my agency lol. I have my skype call Monday and really hope they like me. I’ve become so incredibly passionate about surrogacy after nonstop research that I hope to find an agency to actually work for as an intake specialist or coordinator. My coordinator said it’s about who you know, and being very involved in the surrogacy groups and community. I graduate school in June and hope to continue to educate myself because I have never been so sure about a career path. Thanks for being here for me ladies, I’m sure I’ll have a million more questions through this journey :) I’ll update my post Monday after our skype call  

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