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1st RE appt went great!

Posted by IMinNY  , 20 March 2007 - 10:06 AM

Despite the snow, Ursula made it in okay, just 45 mins late, which at a NY airport is practically a miracle these days. Heh. We picked her up at 5:30 Sunday evening, then came to our house for a brief meeting with the dogs and a house tour. She was the first person to sit down at our dining room table! It wasn't because I was being pretentious, it was cause our kitchen table wobbles like crazy and we'd have spilled our tea. (Brian was supposed to fix it yesterday but he forgot) After spending about an hour here, we all went out to dinner at Crabtree's Kittle House, which was good as always. It wasn't the best meal I have ever had there, but it was still very decent and the bottle of wine was really good. She was staying there as well (it's a B&B) so we checked out her room, which was lovely in that very antique-y way that we like. She liked it too, and was especially intrigued by the huge carve mahogany 19th century piano (!!) that they had the TV set sitting on.

We had a great conversation, just basically getting to know one another better, and talking a lot about our families, and how to raise kids in this day and age, etc. She's really great and we both get along very well with her...she and her hubby are definitely people we'd choose to be friends with! We all had a jolly evening and said good night around 11PM. Monday picked up Ursula at 8:30 AM and we headed up to Yale for her 10AM appointment. Everything went really well at the doctor's appointment yesterday, which included the screening by the RE, as well as the sonohystorgram, which she swore was not uncomfortable! I also got to meet with the finance person and the third party reproduction coordinator, and got the overview of both my protocol and Ursula's. We were there for three hours (!) but at least now we're almost entirely ready to start the process. Just a few more blood tests and stuff, and then we wait for CD21 in April for Ursula, and I start my meds (all injections, yuck, three different ones every day) shortly thereafter. All looks good for a May transfer!

No pics of us together yet, for no good reason other than that we didn't think of taking any! Sorry, will definitely remedy that when she's here next, which might be in April as they really want to bring the whole family up to see the city (only her husband has ever been to NYC). She doesn't really want to travel much once she's pregnant, which is a wise choice IMPO. We will of course be going to NC several times during the pregnancy though and will take LOTS of pics then!

WOWEE WOW WOW!

Posted by IMinNY  , 13 March 2007 - 06:01 PM

First off, the contract post should have actually been dated yesterday, as that is when they got sent out, but I forgot to "publish" the post, so it just showed up as today's date.

But TODAY'S news is equally exciting if not MORE so!!

Our surrogate (Ursula from here on out) is coming here THIS WEEKEND! She's got a doctor's appointment with Dr. Patrizio on Monday at 10AM, so she's coming in on Sunday and staying until Tuesday. SO excited! This is the first step toward cycling. At this appointment, Dr. P will do the sonohystogram and take any bloodwork that's necessary, and then as soon as that is all clear, we are ready to start meds! She'll be here on CD 9 for her, which is exactly as it should be (the sonohystogram needs to be done between CD 6 and CD 12).

CONTRACTS!

Posted by IMinNY  , 13 March 2007 - 05:56 PM

Yippeeeee!! Our contracts are in (earlier than expected!) and even better: we had NO complaints with the contract as written, and neither did our surrogate! :bliss:/> :bliss:/> :bliss:/>

We're off and running now! :bliss:/>

MATCHED!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by IMinNY  , 26 February 2007 - 02:46 PM

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WE ARE MATCHED!!!!!!!!!!

We're just over the moon right now, so incredibly excited! We met our match this weekend in Maryland, and conversation just flowed so easily with both her and her husband. Her name is "U", and her husband is "B". For the sake of their privacy, I will stick with the abbreviations for now, but I just want to shout to the world how much I appreciate these wonderful people! They are going to help us make our dreams come true after so much heartache and so many trials.

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November 5, 2006: Potential Surro #2

Posted by IMinNY  , 15 February 2007 - 06:11 PM

I am just dropping this off because I want to save it....this link is to a thread I posted about our second potential surro match back on November 4, 2006.
http://www.allabouts...showtopic=25199

HI EVERYONE!! I have missed you all so much--I don't have a ton of time right now to write much, but I wanted to drop in, say hi, and give a very quick little update. We have a potential match through CSP and while we think the potential surro and her husband sound awesome based on their profile (we are set to speak with them on the phone next weekend), we have a little bit of apprehension about the fact that we may have to do a stepparent adoption since she lives in Iowa.

Does anyone have specific experience with GS in Iowa? I've searched and found some info about the laws, but they seem ambiguous at best, and our attorney basically said it could go either way--some judges in IA agree to do prebirth orders so our name will be on the BC, while others make IPs go through the stepparent adoption process. I have a lot of emotional questions about this, mainly because it just strikes me as so WRONG to make the genetic and actual mother of the baby "adopt"...but what can ya do, you know? This couple seems so great that we're willing to consider it even in light of the uncertainty about all of this legal stuff.

So anyway, I have to sign off now (I'm actually at work at the moment, just taking a few minutes to hit the computer before I sign into work). THANK YOU for being such a wonderful community to fall back on, though--I wish I had more time!
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Hi everyone, thanks so much for all the good wishes!
We have now had two phone conversations with our potential surro and her husband, and while we LOVE them and think they are a great match for us, we are still really struggling with the idea of the stepparent adoption. A prebirth order isn't really an option in Iowa, believe it or not, which is incredibly frustrating!
So, basically, we're just trying to weigh the emotional drama of a stepparent adoption of our own genetic child vs. the potential wait for another surrogate who's such a good match to come along. Asking her to go out of state to deliver isn't really very practical since she lives dead center in the middle of Iowa--it would be quite a long way from home for her to travel to another state.

To be honest, I am really frustrated with our agency as well. I don't feel like they are doing the very best they could be doing, and it's not like we're getting charged bargain rates or anything, so why do they keep sending us people who have circumstances that are so difficult to deal with?? Ugh. I try to keep a really positive attitude, but occasionally it's easier said than done, know what I mean?

Anyway, I do miss all of you guys and I wish I had some exciting good news to share, but at the moment I really don't...that may change in the next few days if we do decide that we'd rather go ahead with the stepparent adoption as opposed to waiting for another potential surro to surface.
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You guys are all so sweet


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I know that you would love to have a pre-birth order. But what really matters is that you have a child and you know that that child would be yours genetically, reguardless of what a peice of paper says. So I guess what I am saying is can you look pass the step-parent adoption, or will it make it less special for you?



This was a good question, and you do have a point in that it's really only a technicality. My real issue with the stepparent adoption is pretty much totally emotional and not at all logical. While I am a bit embarrassed to admit that, it's true! I guess I just feel like we already have to jump through a gazillion hoops in order to have a child in the first place, and it's already stressful and expensive and emotional, so why in the world add complication to the process, KWIM? It also sort of reinforces those little voices that pop up in the back of my head every now and then that say "you're not the real Mom; you're not a real woman; you're not the best wife your DH could have, etc." I *know* those things aren't true, but the idea of some overworked, underpaid, very likely somewhat apathetic social worker coming into our home and "examining" the environment before we can legally claim finalized parental rights just pisses me off. There's also the (non)issue of revised birth certificates--basically the fact that the first birth certificate would have the name of the surrogate on it as the mother bothers me intensely, even though I know that once parental rights are finalized and I have adopted MY OWN CHILD (grrrrrrr), that BC is sealed. The second BC becomes the recognized one, and is basically the same except that it's in my own name (DH's is on both as the father); the second BC has the state seal on it but not the doctors signature.
So it's not really about it not being special enough, it's more about the emotional issues this brings up and how long they would be hanging around (it takes 6-12 months in NY to get the process completed). I' m trying to be as realistic as I can about how this will impact me--what I am really scared of is telling myself it's no big deal, and then really struggling with the issue when it's time to deal with it.
Another issue revolves around the fact that I used to do volunteer work as a CASA--court appointed special advocate for Foster Children, and having seen firsthand the social services departments here in New York, the idea of being a client of theirs is downright terrifying. The typical caseworker has 70-90 cases at any given time. Yikes! They just simply do not have the time to handle everything that's thrown at them.
Lastly, it means additional costs for us (pushing us into six figure territory, gulp!) because we'd need an additional attorney in Iowa as well as here in NY *and* the one we already have, who is in CA.


At any rate, this is all largely academic at this point because I do think that we have decided to forgo this match. Even though the potential surrogate is really a great match in many ways, the Iowa thing is a serious issue for us, mainly because of the stepparent adoption but also because as our attorney pointed out, it's a LONG way away. He mentioned the other day (and had a good point) that flights to Iowa are long, fairly infrequent, etc., and as such, the distance would probably impact how involved we could be in the pregnancy in terms of docotrs appointments and such--the kicker was though when he mentioned the very real possibility of missing the delivery. I realize it could potentially happen even if the surro were down the road from us, but it's so much more likely to happen if we're so far away. So with all these factors, I think we're back to the drawing board. I hate to delay, but at the same time we just feel like we really need to hold out for a match that is as close to perfect as possible.
SOME DAY we'll be parents!

September 29, 2006: Potential Surro #1

Posted by IMinNY  , 15 February 2007 - 06:11 PM

And this was the thread in October 2006, regarding our first potential surro match:
http://www.allabouts...showtopic=24229

Hi all! Sorry I haven't been around that much lately, but we have been in sort of a "holding pattern" with regard to surrogacy for the past few weeks...we got all of our tests and profiles and stuff submitted to CSP about two weeks ago, and figured it might be a while before we heard back from them. In the meantime, I've been working a lot (at a new part time job) and busy with Jewish holidays, etc., so haven't had much of a chance to be online. Well...I got a call last night that they have a potential match for us! Wow that was fast. I'm excited, but a bit guardedly so.

Here's why: the potential surrogate has 4 children of her own--whom I assume are healthy though we haven't received her full profile yet--but she has hypothyroidism and therefore needs to take Synthroid throughout the pregnancy. Our concern here is that hypothyroidism has been linked to problems with baby's brain development, early labor, increased risk of miscarriage, and for babies who make it all the way, potentially significantly lowered IQ. Here are some sources:

http://www.nih.gov/n...99/nichd-18.htm

http://www.cfpc.ca/c...-clinical-1.asp

http://www.thyroid-i...s/pregnancy.htm

While of course we don't want to summarily dismiss the idea of working with this surrogate, we are concerned about these possibilities and are looking for any firsthand information any of you might be able to provide? Does anyone here have experience with thyroid issues, and have any information that might help us? One of the questions I have is whether the developmental/IQ issues would even be a consideration during a surrogacy, since in our case there's no genetic link between the surrogate and the baby. Or is it that these issues arise as a result of hormonal imbalances in the carrying woman's body, and would impact a GS baby as much as her own?
I'd appreciate it!!

ps: I also want to take this opportunity to say THANK YOU to so many of you who have already been so helpful, and supportive, as we begin our surrogacy journey.

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Devin & Stacy, thank you so much for your quick responses. You have each touched on our concerns...while I don't want to just knee-jerk and say NO! to each potential surrogate who's not "perfect", in this case we feel like the risks really do matter. It's not like this is a common problem or even a minor thing...it could affect our baby's BRAIN. That scares me. You kind of need your brain, ya know? LOL

Apparently the concern is less about the actual taking of the medication and more about the fact that thyroid function in the gestating mother is very important to early development of the baby...in the first 12 weeks, the baby has no functioning thyroid of its own, so even small fluctuations in the thyroid levels of the carrier can have a big impact. So, it's really about the fact that pregnancy itself can make her levels go wacky and she'll have to be incredibly closely monitored. It just feels like another layer of risk that we don't necessarily NEED to take, know what I mean?

At the same time, we are going to read her profile when we get it, and we've also placed a call to our own RE for his opinion on thyroid issues and how they affect pregnancy/surrogacy. For all we know, she wouldn't even pass his medical exam? If we do need to say no to this one (and I think we will, honestly), I will probably fall back on whatever the doctor has to say. I think he's going to want to avoid this situation, personally.
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Thank you all so much for your insights, thoughts, and some more info on thyroid conditions.

I haven't heard back from my RE's office, so I am not sure if he's going to have an issue with this or not, but since we also haven't received the potential surrogate's profile yet either, of course we haven't made any decision at all. The reason I made the earlier comment about feeling like my RE would want to steer clear of this is simply that he strikes me as the type of doctor who's going to shoot for nothing less than "medically perfect" in a surrogate. I could be wrong about that, but he's generally quite cautious in his approaches (he's also a Bioethicist, by the way), they have a really great success rate, and I just don't see him endorsing the introduction of a condition that he may very well perceive as an unnecessary risk factor for us.

Daff, it's my understanding that even though her levels are regulated now with the Synthroid, the pregnancy itself can and will alter those levels, necessitating a much closer surveillance of her meds. The part of this that scares us is the idea that she could potentially go for a week or three or five with the *wrong* levels of meds early in the pregnancy, during those first 12 weeks when it can introduce neural defects and other potential brain development issues. It's not like we could hole her up at Yale for 3 months and keep her away from her 4 kids or something, just so she can have round-the-clock monitoring, KWIM?

Melissa, did your levels/medications change at all when you became pregnant? I'm not familiar with Dr. Zouves.

I want to clarify that she has not done any type of medical testing with our RE, and I am really not sure what type (if any) of medical screening is done by CSP prior to them trying to match her. They're not doctors, obviously, and they go out of their way to stress the fact that they can't and won't make any sort of medical diagnosis or warranty. That part of CSP's process is all somewhat unclear to us, actually, now that I really think about it. I know they give the impression of being highly selective, but just like anything else, that is really basically only us taking their word for it. We don't really KNOW if they are or not...does that make sense? I do believe that they are stringent about certain requirements like an initial psych screening, a requirement that a surrogate not be on any sort of public assistance, that she be married and have children of her own, but past that, I really don't know.
Part of the reason I am mentioning this is that my husband's initial reaction to all this info about this potential surrogate was "She's been in their system for a while." And you know what, even though I tend to be far less cynical than he, he had a point that was valid enough for me to at least consider...why else would they match us in less than two weeks after telling us to expect 3-9 months of wait time? So I guess what I'm saying here is that what we will absolutely NOT do is just assume that since CSP thinks she's suitable enough to present to us, that there's no reason to critically examine the potential for issues if we chose her. I trust them, but not *that* much.

As I guess you guys can tell, at this particular moment we're leaning toward declining to work with this lady, who I am sure is a wonderful person and will find a good match elsewhere. However: we won't say a definitive "no" without even knowing anything else about her--and we could still decide to take at least the next step, which would be a phone conversation--so please just keep us in your thoughts and prayers as we make this decision! We expect to receive the profile tomorrow morning via Fed Ex, so please do think of us on Saturday if it occurs to you.

At the very least, it IS very encouraging to know that our profile was appealing to her and that we're apparently presentable enough to make an initial match But it seems like you all knew that from the beginning, regardless of how nervous my hubby and I have been!!
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Thank you, everyone!! The hubster and I have been discussing this at length, and we just feel like this isn't the right match for us. Overall, this potential surrogate had some really, really great things to recommend her--in fact she an excellent match in a lot of the larger things we were looking for. Even though the thyroid issue does scare us a bit (Serena, I'd like to hear more from you though?), it would not have been a dealbreaker. However there were two other things that are fairly minor if they stood alone, but when all three were added together it basically ended up being a no-go for us. Once we really read her full profile in great detal (and, like ten times, LOL), we realized that there were a few potential potholes that might be dealbreakers. So, thank you again for all of your support and thoughts and prayers!

I promise not to stay away for so long again, too...I've missed all of you and feel really out of the loop around here! Things have been really busy for me, but I think I'll be slowing down a little bit in the next few days. Thank goodness! I could use a break!

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Melissa, THANK YOU for giving me some more insight into the behind the scenes work at CSP! I really do appreciate it. While I do trust the agency overall very much, I find my contact person a little bit hard to talk to at times, so I don't always ask them for a detailed explanation at every turn even if I'd like one. It's really helpful to get a little first-hand insight into not only their med screening process, but also how and why we might have gotten matched so quickly this first time. And of course it gives us hope that we'll be matched fairly quickly again, too. We're more than willing to wait and wait for the right match, of course, but we're also excited and anxiously awaiting the day we receive that "perfect" profile. The sooner the better!

It turns out that our RE actually had a couple of issues with this particular surrogate's medical profile, so even though she passed CSP's medical screening, she didn't pass his. He's pretty risk averse, it seems, which is good for us because it helps us to remain're 100% confident that he's doing everything in his power to ensure the best possible result.

February 9, 2007: Potential Surro #3: the charm?

Posted by IMinNY  , 15 February 2007 - 06:11 PM

http://www.allabouts...showtopic=27852

Sigh! I feel like it's been SO VERY LONG since I have been here! Please forgive me. The reason for my long absence is basically that when we have a potential surro who doesn't work out for one reason or another, it tends to get me a little down in the dumps afterward. Mainly, it's just hard for me to post here when I'm feeling like nothing is progressing on *our* surrogacy journey. I know that sounds selfish (it is, I guess). But our path has just been filled with so very much disappointment and so many dashed hopes, from the multiple miscarriages, to the two surrogates who ended up through no fault of their own being unsuitable (one was distance combined with stepparent adoption, the other was a medical issue). I have just felt stalled in this "starting phase" for soooo long now; it's been over a year!

At any rate, we got a call today from our agency's east coast counselor and they have a potential match for us!! Even though I haven't seen her profile yet (she chose us!), I have a really good feeling about this one. I'll call her Brigitte for now (I will tell her full name once we're further into the process, but for now I want to protect her privacy). She lives in NC, she's married and I believe she has 2 daughters, and she is a second time surrogate with a fully clean medical history. As I mentioned, she chose us out of several couples' profiles, so I already know that we're compatible on the "big" issues that can sometimes complicate things. We're very excited at the idea that she's on the East Coast, because we really want to be as involved as possible in the pregnancy and we do NOT want to miss the birth--that was one factor in olur decision not to work with one of the other potential surrogates; she was so far away that we were scared that we would miss the birth in the roughly 12 hours it would take to reach her if she went into labor early. We're also really excited about the fact that she's done this before. It's not something we would have asked for, per se, but at the same time it does give us the confidence that she knows what she's getting into and she's sort of "been there, done that".

So, everyone please wish us luck and most of all wisdom to make the right decisions--that is, if you can even remember who the heck I am after 2 months away from AAS!! I will update more this weekend, once we receive the profile (which should arrive tomorrow, hopefully).

IMinNY Feb 10 2007, 06:42 PM Post #20
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You all are SO wonderful! Thank you so much for the well-wishes, and support!

So...drumroll please. We received her profile today and she actually seems 100% PERFECT! We love everything we read about her and her family so far, not the least of which is the fact she's a second time surrogate. I also love the fact that they have dogs. LOL It sounds dumb, but we are most definitely dog people, and find that when we meet other dog people we almost always get along. Her dogs are big like ours, too, so she won't be scared of my "little" guys (100 pounds and 70 pounds).

Heather, I'd love to meet up! We're actually meeting "Brigitte" in Maryland first, but if we proceed further of course we will be in NC. She lives closest to Raleigh-Durham.

Speaking of which, we ARE meeting her & her hubby, hopefully on the 24th of this month! I am so incredibly excited; for some reason Brian and I just have the feeling that she's the one for us. I can't explain it, we just both feel like this is right somehow. (We also both have the feeling we're having twins, but obviously it's a bit early to tell--hee hee!)

I will have some more info hopefully on Monday when I can speak in more detail with our counselor, but in the meantime I am totally walking on air.
IMinNY Feb 13 2007, 09:10 AM Post #29
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I've been matched for nearly a year and only recently has my journey picked up the pace


Wow, Audrey, that must be excruciating!!

We are all set for the meeting on the 24th! I'm so excited I could pee...not that it would do me any good, at least not in the usual POAS way. LOL I'm trying hard not to get my hopes up TOO high, but at the same time, I just really feel like this is the right match for us. I can't explain why, really, but everything about "Brigitte" and her family fits for us. The only way they be more perfect would be if they lived down the street. I guess that's the sort of fit that we always knew we were looking for, but weren't sure we'd find.

Could it be...progress??

Posted by IMinNY  , 09 February 2007 - 06:11 PM

Sigh! I feel like it's been SO VERY LONG since I have been here! Please forgive me. The reason for my long absence is basically that when we have a potential surro who doesn't work out for one reason or another, it tends to get me a little down in the dumps afterward. Mainly, it's just hard for me to post here when I'm feeling like nothing is progressing on *our* surrogacy journey. I know that sounds selfish (it is, I guess). But our path has just been filled with so very much disappointment and so many dashed hopes, from the multiple miscarriages, to the two surrogates who ended up through no fault of their own being unsuitable (one was distance combined with stepparent adoption, the other was a medical issue). I have just felt stalled in this "starting phase" for soooo long now; it's been over a year!

At any rate, we got a call today from our agency's east coast counselor and they have a potential match for us!! :bliss:/> Even though I haven't seen her profile yet (she chose us!), I have a really good feeling about this one. I'll call her Brigitte for now (I will tell her full name once we're further into the process, but for now I want to protect her privacy). She lives in NC, she's married and I believe she has 2 daughters, and she is a second time surrogate with a fully clean medical history. As I mentioned, she chose us out of several couples' profiles, so I already know that we're compatible on the "big" issues that can sometimes complicate things. We're very excited at the idea that she's on the East Coast, because we really want to be as involved as possible in the pregnancy and we do NOT want to miss the birth--that was one factor in olur decision not to work with one of the other potential surrogates; she was so far away that we were scared that we would miss the birth in the roughly 12 hours it would take to reach her if she went into labor early. We're also really excited about the fact that she's done this before. It's not something we would have asked for, per se, but at the same time it does give us the confidence that she knows what she's getting into and she's sort of "been there, done that".

So, everyone please wish us luck and most of all wisdom to make the right decisions--that is, if you can even remember who the heck I am after 2 months away from AAS!! I will update more this weekend, once we receive the profile (which should arrive tomorrow, hopefully).


(copied from an AAS thread...saving this for posterity!)

Musings on Motherhood, etc.

Posted by IMinNY  , 20 August 2006 - 04:03 PM

I am thrilled to have been getting a lot of positive feedback from the community here at AAS lately. :)/> It makes me happy that through all of our research and soul-searching, DH and I have been able to come up with a philosophy that will be comfortable for us and so welcomed by a potential surrogate. I think that so often couples get caught up in the excitement in the early stages of investigating surrogacy, and rush in with all sorts of good intentions, only to find that they really didn't think things through all the way and they have expectations or beliefs that clash with their surrogate. It's really, really important to DH and me that this does NOT happen, so I have been painstaking about bringing up all the "hard subjects" and discussing them to death with DH. Surprisingly, though he is normally the one insisting that we face the potential "worst case scenarios" in life, he hasn't been that way with surrogacy and I have been the one to really push us toward working through all of the "what-ifs" ahead of time. It's been an interesting change of pace, and has given me a chance to walk in his shoes for a while. Whew, it's exhausting! LOL

One sort of odd thing that we've been talking about lately is the whole idea of "buying for the baby". DH grew up with a fairly traditional Jewish mindset that it's somehow "bad luck" to buy things for the baby prior to the birth. While I understand the idea that no one wants to jinx anything, at the same time, I don't have these cultural associations and to me the idea of waiting til the baby's born to start preparing seems more than a little irrational at best, and at worst, downright irresponsible. :dontknowsmilie:/> I just can't imagine having to rush off and furnish an entire nursery, layette, etc., when a newborn has made his or her entrance into the world. To me, that will be the lowest priority--I'll just want to snuggle and kiss and feed and get to know my baby, not go shopping. Also, since we will be away from home when the baby is born, I'm not sure exactly how we would even go about all that shopping (not to mention transporting everything home when baby's ready to travel). A lot of Jewish families make use of their inlaws for this, but since we don't have grandmas to rely on and my own Dad may or may not even be in the country at the time of the birth (he travels a great deal internationally for work and is often gone for months at a time), I don't see this as a very practical solution either. So, I've been working on DH to soften his position on this issue, and he's agreed to give it some thought. I guess that's all I can ask for!

It's REALLY Official now!

Posted by IMinNY  , 17 August 2006 - 08:26 AM

It's REALLY official now--we are DEFINITELY proceeding with our surrogacy journey! :bliss:/>

Yesterday I sent out the signed agency contracts and contracts with the counseling providers, along with two very fat checks. I'm feeling all sorts of emotions now, a combination of extreme excitement, nervousness, impatience, and abundant energy. When can we start painting the baby's room?? LOL!! Just kidding about that part, but in all seriousness, I'm kind of laughing at how very excited DH and I are at this point. Yes, I read "What to Expect the First Year" cover to cover yesterday, hee hee.

Our next steps from here are:
1) DH is going today to FINALLY get his blood tests done (don't ask, he's tried at 4-5 different labs and for various reasons due to wacky NYC labs, he hasn't been able to get any lab to do them. I guess NYC has very restrictive laws regarding both HIV tests and genetic tests. At any rate, he's home from work today and we're determined to get these tests done once and for all near home. Since we don't live in the city, it shouldn't be a huge problem. We hope.
2) When the agency sends us our welcome package, we have to get down to business with some more paperwork.
3) Need to contact the attorney and get his retainer agreement (I called him Tuesday night but haven't heard back yet).
4) Need to finish our IP profile, format it, print it and send it to the agency.
5) Then...we wait!
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