When do you get the "surro" title?
Posted 17 April 2011 - 06:28 PM
(and I faintly remember another thread regarding this, but can't find it...)
At what point in a journey can you officially be titled with "surrogate"?
When you're matched?
After you transfer?
When you become pg?
After you've had the child(ren)?
Just wondering what ya'll think...
(PS-this applies to TS's as well...wasn't quite sure where to post it, though)
Posted 17 April 2011 - 07:10 PM
I think it's once matched, but everyone has an opinion lol
If you think about it, they (IP's) consider you their surrogate once you're matched, so why can't you consider yourself their surrogate on the same terms? KWIM?
Posted 17 April 2011 - 08:41 PM
Posted 17 April 2011 - 09:07 PM
I think once you're pregnant, see the h/b, and have made it "out of the woods" then maybe you're safe saying you're a GS to ___. That's JMO, of course! http://www.allaboutsurrogacy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolling_eyes.gif
Like, with my siggies, I've only used the words "hopeful", "matched", and now "soon to be". I'm not a GS yet, but getting there!
Posted 18 April 2011 - 09:02 AM
Posted 18 April 2011 - 09:12 AM
Posted 18 April 2011 - 12:14 PM
I agree with Missy as well - since the process has so many steps it's almost necessary to define what phase you are in. I'm ok with ladies using the GS/TS/IM title early in their journey but with an explanation of status. "Hopeful", "searching", "matched", "cycling" etc. are all good words to use before pregnancy. I personally am not all that comfortable with someone who hasn't achieved a pregnancy calling themselves a surrogate since that's the main goal of the process but, I also recognize there are many ladies who have invested months if not years into a journey that doesn't result in a pregnancy/delivery and IMO that deserves some kind of recognition (title). :dontknowsmilie:/> I guess I feel - and there may be situations that would change my mind - that to truly call oneself a GS you need to have at the least achieved a pregnancy - delivery isn't necessary. I think it's totally ok for someone to say, "I was a surrogate for X&Y but miscarried. Again, the explanation is a big part of the title.
Not to get all technical but I think there is a difference between saying you are a GS and using the GSx1, GSx2, GSx3 labels. I'm a GSx1 and cycling for GSx2 - but I wouldn't by any means consider myself a 2x surrogate at this point. I personally use the GSx* to describe what journey I am on (along with an explanation) - not to indicated how many surrogacies I've completed.
Posted 19 April 2011 - 09:13 AM
I agree 100% with Carla.
I have earned my GSX3 and I don't like it when people say they are a GSX3 because they have been matched 3 times, or had 3 transfers, etc.
Posted 20 April 2011 - 03:49 PM
Now experienced in surrogacy i think differently.
i think you are experienced regardless of if the transfer takes or not.
A lot of surros have different opinions on this. Some say you are not expereinced until you deliver.