First pregnancy surrogacy
Posted 20 March 2012 - 08:57 PM
I'm a TS for my best friend and his husband. This is my first pregnancy, which I know no one advises, but despite the warnings I'm going ahead and have no regrets thus far.
I'd really love to connect with some other women who have made the same choice. Anyone out there? Anyone even heard of one??
Posted 20 March 2012 - 10:00 PM
Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:08 PM
The insemination was done at home, with an oral syringe. We have no contract, and I am invited to move in with them and co-parent if that's what I want (but it absolutely isn't).
The IPs are very good friends of mine, and didn't ask me to do this - I volunteered knowing that their situation was pretty much hopeless otherwise. I could have absolutely waited until I'd already started a family to do this, but I didn't want to. I want to have kids of my own, but I'm not ready to yet. I'm 27, but I've never envisioned myself with children before my mid-thirties, which is already getting up there for fertility. Basically, I wanted to save my latest fertile years for myself.
Posted 06 April 2012 - 08:44 AM
I personally know of one other TS that had babies for others before giving birth to her own son.
The fact that you don't have a contract is, frankly, scary. You are a grown woman and I'm not trying to belittle or bash you for your decision, but know that you have left yourself vulnerable. I know the IP's are friends of yours, and I hope everything will turn out just fine for all of you.
I wish you and your friends the best in your journey, and hope that this pregnancy will not compromise your future fertility.
Posted 06 April 2012 - 09:28 AM
Posted 06 April 2012 - 10:00 AM
I'm really interested in how this process differs from other forms of surrogacy. I have a vast number of surrogacy blogs to compare my experience to, which are mostly really helpful and interesting, but the only thing I have to oppose them to is my own experience (which is still in progress - as I guess it always will be). I would really love to connect with another woman who has made this ill-advised choice, so if anyone out there knows of one who might be interested, please send her my way!
@Amaraine - thanks for your your concern - there's no doubt that it's an unadvisable situation in many aspects. I did carefully considered the possibility of losing my fertility before starting this. I decided that I was in a good position to take this risk because I'm gay, so the thought of having biological children with my partner died long ago. Also, my relationships all involve two uteri :)/>
@TiffanyM - I really appreciate you checking out my blog - your response is extra helpful because of it.
Posted 06 April 2012 - 10:47 AM