Posted 27 March 2012 - 04:26 PM
My IP's started bonding w/their DD's (both set's of IP's) right after their births. As far as "bringing him" to your surro, I would hope that you give her some closure BEFORE you leave the hospital. For many of us, it is a big part of "the end", being able to say that good-bye. I never bonded w/my surrobabe's the way I did w/my own children, but it was very important for me to have that time to see them and say goodbye. Also, please do NOT forget that her family...inlcuding her own children...have been a huge part in the surrogate journey just as much as your surro has been. W/out their support and sacrifice, she would not have been able to be the best surro that she could be for you and your DS. It is important for our children (almost as much as for us) to be able to see the baby, see baby w/it's parent's and be able to process it all. My kids were so much involved in most every aspect of my pg's, had either set of IP's refused to allow them to see or interact w/the baby before we all left the hospital, it would have made things much more difficult for them to accept. For all of my kids...even my older one's...I insisted that they MUST be seated in order to hold my surrobabe's, which while my IP's were wonderful about it all, made them more comfortable too. My girls each sat WITH my IP's and the held the baby together, which was super special to them. They were able to ask questions if they had them, say little tidbits to the baby and were all able to say goodbye. My boys' already "got" it, but it helped my girls more in understanding the "purpose" for surrogacy and to feel good about what they helped do.