I'm shocked that no one else seemed to catch on to that sentence. If you are already having sex then by all means, keep doing the horizontal mambo, don't use protection, get knocked up and give YOUR baby up for adoption to this man. Sign away your parental rights. Do whatever you please. But DON'T think that it makes you a surrogate in any way, shape or form because that is highly offensive to those of us who actually ARE surrogates for the right reasons and go about it in the right ways.
I am sorry if you are offended, but I don't think that makes it necessary for you to be offensive to me.
Firstly it is not (easilly anyway) possible to 'sign away your parental rights' as amother, and strangely an unwed birth father has little to no rights in our legal system. My parental responsibility would remain for the duration of the legal childhood. Which is something I need to be careful and mindful of, since I already single-handedly support 2 chidren.
Can I assume you are all commercial surrogates? And therefore do this professionally?
So taking the word surrogacy off the table for a minute how would you envision that a single man who does not want or need to be married, but does want a biological child would achieve that?
May I please ask how in the world I was offensive to you? Because I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear?
If you know that it isn't legal to sign away rights to the baby so that this man could parent on his own, why are you even considering it? You say you don't want anymore children but you acknowledge that you would be a responsible party. I just don't understand.
And no, I'm not a commercial surrogate. I'm a woman who put my life on hold to carry twins for another couple. I'm a woman who protected those twins until past 38 weeks and went through over 24 hours of labor to bring them into this world. All for someone else. I'm a woman who is part of a wonderful group of women who have done the same thing once, twice or multiple times.
The bottom line is this - You asked us if it is possible to move forward with what you are proposing and to call it a traditional surrogacy arrangement. The answer is no. Stop arguing, stop explaining yourself, there's no point. If you feel strongly about what you are doing, by all means, do what you need to do and continue on this path.
We have all answered your question. It's not a surrogacy. End of discussion. Your questions would probably be better suited for a different website/forum. I wish you the best.
I'm shocked that no one else seemed to catch on to that sentence. If you are already having sex then by all means, keep doing the horizontal mambo, don't use protection, get knocked up and give YOUR baby up for adoption to this man. Sign away your parental rights. Do whatever you please. But DON'T think that it makes you a surrogate in any way, shape or form because that is highly offensive to those of us who actually ARE surrogates for the right reasons and go about it in the right ways.
I am sorry if you are offended, but I don't think that makes it necessary for you to be offensive to me.
Firstly it is not (easilly anyway) possible to 'sign away your parental rights' as amother, and strangely an unwed birth father has little to no rights in our legal system. My parental responsibility would remain for the duration of the legal childhood. Which is something I need to be careful and mindful of, since I already single-handedly support 2 chidren.
Can I assume you are all commercial surrogates? And therefore do this professionally?
So taking the word surrogacy off the table for a minute how would you envision that a single man who does not want or need to be married, but does want a biological child would achieve that?
May I please ask how in the world I was offensive to you? Because I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear?
If you know that it isn't legal to sign away rights to the baby so that this man could parent on his own, why are you even considering it? You say you don't want anymore children but you acknowledge that you would be a responsible party. I just don't understand.
And no, I'm not a commercial surrogate. I'm a woman who put my life on hold to carry twins for another couple. I'm a woman who protected those twins until past 38 weeks and went through over 24 hours of labor to bring them into this world. All for someone else. I'm a woman who is part of a wonderful group of women who have done the same thing once, twice or multiple times.
The bottom line is this - You asked us if it is possible to move forward with what you are proposing and to call it a traditional surrogacy arrangement. The answer is no. Stop arguing, stop explaining yourself, there's no point. If you feel strongly about what you are doing, by all means, do what you need to do and continue on this path.
We have all answered your question. It's not a surrogacy. End of discussion. Your questions would probably be better suited for a different website/forum. I wish you the best.
I drafted a bit of a bitchy response in my head while I was running a Half-Marathon earlier... but the hormone surge it gave me allowed me to get a new personal best time by 2.5 minutes... so I am not going to be bitchy.
Thanks girls! :)/> :)/>
And since you have made it more than clear that you don't want to hear any more I'll bow out.
I drafted a bit of a bitchy response in my head while I was running a Half-Marathon earlier... but the hormone surge it gave me allowed me to get a new personal best time by 2.5 minutes... so I am not going to be bitchy.
Thanks girls! :)/> :)/>
And since you have made it more than clear that you don't want to hear any more I'll bow out.
Good luck with your respective journeys!
Congrats on your half marathon, happy birthday and I'm sorry we were so hostile - really. I also am btw technically a commercial surrogate. I have no problem being paid for something I enjoy so much - helping people have kids and being pregnant and I will get so much more out of this than the money - certainly goodwill is a necessary part to a good surrogacy! I voiced my concerns and still have concerns with your proposed arrangement but I never meant to attack you personally so I'm sorry if I have offended you.
I drafted a bit of a bitchy response in my head while I was running a Half-Marathon earlier... but the hormone surge it gave me allowed me to get a new personal best time by 2.5 minutes... so I am not going to be bitchy.
Thanks girls! :)/> :)/>
And since you have made it more than clear that you don't want to hear any more I'll bow out.
Good luck with your respective journeys!
For someone who doesn't want people to attack her and wants others to be polite, you sure have forgotten the golden rule. Hope you get the help you're looking for elsewhere.
Really ladies lets just stop responding and let this thread die... :theeye:/> She is clearly not going to stop trying to justify her really really ****ed up idea of what surrogacy is. But who am I to say anything, this is just coming from a commercial surrogate. :rolleyes:/>
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Angelique, on 28 April 2012 - 02:12 AM, said:
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