More than one surrogate?? What're your thoughts?
Posted 27 April 2012 - 06:11 PM
Posted 27 April 2012 - 09:34 PM
If they're using 3 surrogates I don't see the need to transfer more than one embie to each...
I personally wouldn't have wanted to "share" my IFs. We had a really special relationship that we all treasure so another surrogate would have affected that in a big way IMO...
Posted 27 April 2012 - 10:16 PM
Posted 27 April 2012 - 10:29 PM
Posted 27 April 2012 - 11:00 PM
Posted 28 April 2012 - 12:43 AM
It seems like a conquest issue almost. Sorry, I'm not trying to be mean this just gives Surrogacy a bad rep if you ask me. It's like just because we can... I do not know the circumstsnces so this is just my knee jerk reaction.
This post has been edited by LittleFella: 28 April 2012 - 12:51 AM
Posted 28 April 2012 - 09:53 AM
I completely agree with you Amanda... I think they just want a baby so bad that their heads are clouded. Do they have any children now? Do they know how exhausting it is to raise even one child, let alone 6 (or more once you factor in the possibility of splitters)? I think this is completely irresponsible, but that is just me.
I do have a question for the OP though - Will you all try to cycle around the same time? I think it's possible, but not likely for you to transfer around the same time due to all kinds of delays that could happen to either one of you. The real question is if one of them gets pregnant before you do will you just be dropped? Will they keep trying until all three of you are pregnant?
I think I would be very uncomfortable with the possibility of going through the whole process... med eval, psych eval, contracts, cycling etc... and getting a call one day saying "Oh, we don't need you now, our other surro is pregnant." If that surro miscarries, will they call you back? Or will they just keep all of you until a baby is born?
The whole thing confuses me, and it just screams disaster to me, but I know it's not uncommon.
Oh well :dontknowsmilie:/>
Posted 28 April 2012 - 10:45 AM
I read this a while back. It is much more controversial because it is in China, about a woman who has eight children through two surrogates! I guess thinking of it this way from China's perspective it makes me glad it is legal to hire as many surrogates as a person wants.
This post has been edited by LittleFella: 28 April 2012 - 10:48 AM
Posted 28 April 2012 - 11:25 AM
I think as long as the surrogate is fine with being one of three, like anything else in a surrogacy agreement, it's all good.
As an IP, I personally would be overwhelmed with potentially six babies even with a "village" helping me. Triplets is one thing - not easy - but six? But again, to each his or her own.
Posted 28 April 2012 - 03:30 PM