A Summary of the Traditional Surrogacy Process
Traditional Surrogacy; Part
The surrogate mother and the intended parents should each be represented
by a lawyer who specializes in adoption or surrogacy laws, or at
least in family law. The said lawyer will review the contracts and
help to make sure both parties are represented in the fairest possible
way. The contract stage can be a long, drawn-out process. Or it
can be fairly quick and painless. Just be sure to not go into it
with too many expectations. Anything done right will take time.
With contracts finished and signed, you are ready to get pregnant.
Or are you? In a traditional surrogacy arrangement, it is important
that the surrogate be familiar with her cycle. It takes at least
3 months of monitoring by the surrogate mother to find out her ovulation
days. The testing and contract phase is a good time for the surrogate
mother to be doing her monitoring, so when the time comes, she is
very familiar with her cycle.
Then the surrogate mother and intended parents need to decide how
they would like to try to achieve pregnancy. A good amount of surrogate
mothers are willing to try home inseminations. It is more comfortable,
and cheaper for the IP's. As long as the surrogate mother knows
the day she ovulates, home insems can be very simple and painless.
The IP's will need a sterile collection cup and the surrogate will
need a medicine syringe and a comfortable, relaxing area. After
the IF leaves his sample in the collection cup, it must be kept
at body temperature and gotten to the surrogate within 30 minutes
or the sperm start to die. After the surrogate mother receives the
sample she will draw the sample into the syringe, get comfy, preferably
on a bed where she can relax for at least 30 minutes afterwards,
prop her hips up on a pillow, and deposit the sample, leaving the
syringe in place for several minutes. If the surrogate can stay
in bed after this, it is a good idea for her to turn over and lay
on her stomach for awhile.
The whole process is very simple and painless, aside from being
a bit awkward at first. Insems should be done before ovulation has
occurred and each insem should be done at least 24 hours apart to
allow for the sperm to replenish.
The other option is having an intrauterine insemination done. Some
surrogates feel better doing it this way because it is so clinical
and not as intimate as home insems. The surrogate will track her
cycles, then on ovulation day, her and her IF will go to the clinic
together. The IF will give his sample, which is then washed. The
washing basically consists of spinning the semen so it separates
the sperm from the liquid. Then the sperm is what is placed inside
a catheter which is then inserted into the uterus of the surrogate
and the sperm are released.
Either way you decide to do inseminations, hopefully within the
next 14 days you will get a positive pregnancy test. But that does
not always happen the first try. In most cases, it can take up to
6 attempts to achieve pregnancy. As long as the surrogate and intended
parents keep an open mind and be honest and open with one another,
surrogacy can be a very rewarding and fulfilling experience, for
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